by: Jamie Rautenberg
At times when we feel most powerless, some of us can unconsciously behave as if our survival is entirely dependent on attention from others around us. This survival instinct kicks in from beliefs we’ve accumulated throughout our life about what it means to relate and receive love which is mixed up with taking energy from another to gain power back.
I know I’ve definitely engaged in this behavior throughout my life, but it wasn’t until I stopped making other people responsible for my emotional experience that I could feel any ounce of that power come back to me.
It’s important for each of us to stop and reflect on these habits and beliefs and honestly examine how it affects us on all levels- emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually. Without our own consistent acknowledge of our experiences, we’ll constantly engage in the fight for it from others through playing energy games and creating dramas for this attention.